Attention: The Solution - The Void: Mind Wanderings of a Lost Soul
emaleythe
emaleythe
Attention: The Solution
Due to advice from my brilliant friend Danu and my extraordinary friend Heather, neither of which would have thought I'd take this advice for this purpose, or who even thought that I'd hear their words as advice I have decided one super huge major thing. #1: Danu told me and told me often that you can't begin to heal until you let go of the thing that is hurting you. #2: Heather wrote in her journal tonight an image of an octupus holding tightly to many things and thus is unable to move because every hand is full. Both spoke to me so clearly. That in addition with Jason getting a full time job, have spurred this decision a long time in making.

Tomorrow, I am handing in my resignation to Alco. I am going to call my boss and let her know my plans. If they will not make me come to Richmond next week (totally unlikely that they will agree), then I will give them a two week notice. If their plans are to have me come to Richmond anyway, than tomorrow will be my last day. Either way, I am leaving this job and the resignation is going to be formally submitted.

I can not do this job anymore, everyone who knows me knows this. There is no surprise in my announcement other than that it is coming this way.

My mother is having me call my father after Alias to talk about my decision. She wants me to give notice no matter, the whole don't burn bridges thing. I don't think that it matters at this point, the bridges have been on fire for a long time. You guys can tell me what you think. Does giving notice to an employer make any difference in references or does it just make a difference with rehiring? At this point, I don't really care.

Job hunting, here I come!

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Comments
devvie From: devvie Date: September 30th, 2005 01:58 am (UTC) (Link)
I'm am so freakin proud of you!! You tried honey..and that is admirable...but you finally realize that YOU are more IMPORTANT!!! I love your pals Danu and Heather for helping you see that.
emaleythe From: emaleythe Date: September 30th, 2005 02:01 am (UTC) (Link)
thank you. and you know what? it feels so good. I'm flying high right now just knowing that the worst part is going to be over.
devvie From: devvie Date: September 30th, 2005 02:03 am (UTC) (Link)
I think it was a long time in coming. You are just soooo good about responsibilty that you allowed yourself to get lost in this whole thing. It probably feels good to know you are doing the right thing and finally taking care of yourself...plus you KNOW that you are a brilliant lady and can do something much more wonderful with your life!!!!!!!!!!!!!
emaleythe From: emaleythe Date: September 30th, 2005 02:11 am (UTC) (Link)
exactly, it's like the whole wide world of possibility is open again to me....I'm excited :)
learntoflyrar From: learntoflyrar Date: September 30th, 2005 03:10 am (UTC) (Link)
I think that if it makes you this miserable you need to quit ASAP for your mental health. So yeah, do whatever, they kind of deserve it.
emaleythe From: emaleythe Date: September 30th, 2005 03:18 am (UTC) (Link)
absolutely, but good to have your support.
arcticnyx From: arcticnyx Date: September 30th, 2005 06:38 am (UTC) (Link)

w00t!

Right on! I'm proud of you for letting go and making that (very difficult) decision!!! You have so much to offer the world, find someone who will appreciate your hard work and loyalty - and settle for nothing less.
Leaving now is probably best. If you continue to trudge along you'll just get angrier and angrier and burn bridges anyway. And you might be surprised, maybe you'll still get a good reference. *crossing fingers*
From: seekingautumn Date: September 30th, 2005 11:57 am (UTC) (Link)
I think your reasons for resigning are not unfounded. They should, if they have any brains, understand that they can not just yank one away from their family for weeks at a time without having discussed this ahead of time. Since giving notice would require you return to that property, I don't see where it would be in your best interest to do so. And, this is about what is in your best interest... screw them! I'm proud of you.
kaidysoft From: kaidysoft Date: September 30th, 2005 04:02 pm (UTC) (Link)
Handing in your notice is WAY BETTER than just walking out, as far as references go. You have been a good, hard, dedicated worker, and they SHOULD be willing to note that to any future employers. People leave jobs ALL THE TIME, for personal reasons, to move, 'cause they are unhappy, because they found a better job - so, there doesn't need to be negativity involved on either side. *hugs* Good for you and I am wishing you luck on finding a job that you love!!!
tappanga From: tappanga Date: September 30th, 2005 04:08 pm (UTC) (Link)
Good girl! Always remember YOU come first. Period. If something is making you unhappy, FLEE!

As far as the two week notice, I'd do it because (at least in this state)they can withhold vacation pay or whatever that you've earned if you don't work a two week notice. However, if you're so unhappy that you're crying all the time, the money might not be worth it. If you do decide to stay, when THE MAN is bringing you down, and you feel yourself about to cry, just say this to them in your head, "Bitch, I'm outta here. This is your problem very soon."

As far as the refernces (again, refering to this state), they can only say your hire date, termination date and if you are eligible for rehire when someone calls for a reference. Check the laws in your state.

Remember, I'm with you, and keeping you in my prayers, my dear. Be strong!
tappanga From: tappanga Date: September 30th, 2005 04:10 pm (UTC) (Link)
Oh, and here's a piece of advice someone gave me that I've stuck with my whole life, and helps me when THE MAN brings me down:

NO ONE IS ALLOWED TO TREAT YOU WORSE THAN YOUR MOTHER DOES! AND THAT IS ONLY BECAUSE SHE WENT THROUGH LABOR WITH YOU! IF SOMEONE IS TREATING YOU WORSE THAN SHE DOES, GET THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE IMMEDIATELY! THIS APPLIES TO BOSSES, MEN, AND THE STRANGER ON THE STREET.
From: barefootatkheb Date: October 3rd, 2005 02:49 pm (UTC) (Link)
good for you :) *hugs tight*
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